As a leader, are you cognizant of how the atmosphere of the room changes when you enter it?Â When you walk into a room, does the energy level go up?Â Do people suddenly become silent?Â Are they excited because you bring solutions or do they smile through gritted teeth knowing that you will eventually leave and then they can getÂ back toÂ work?
Nowhere do I feel theÂ impact of my presence in a room moreÂ than when I come home from work to my wife and daughter.Â I have learned that my temperament, attitude, and level of attentiveness will determine the mood of the entire evening.
I was reminded of this on the dates of Tuesday, May 18th through Thursday, May 20th.Â Â The following chronicles the events of those evenings:
Tuesday, May 18th
AnÂ issue aroseÂ by someone outside our home that caused great distress inside our home.Â Nothing we did but we had to deal with it.Â I was angry.Â Sadly, I did not follow my own advice when I say, “The only difference between anger and danger is a ‘d'”.Â Because I was angry at aÂ non-family member, the entire eveningÂ became ruined forÂ my wife and daughter.
Wednesday, May 19th
I was still angry about theÂ previous day but this timeÂ had to deal with something thatÂ did originate in our home.Â Because I was alreadyÂ angryÂ the evening was ruined for the 2nd day in a row.
Thursday, May 20th
Enough was enough.Â Â I made apologies to everyone for the previous two days and was committed toÂ having a wonderful evening.Â While we were watchingÂ television, IÂ spontaneously beganÂ tickling my daughter.Â This prompted her jumping on my back and trying to tickle me back.Â Suddenly, out of nowhere comes my wifeÂ joins my daughter as they are both now tag-team tickling me.Â During my incessant laughing, even theÂ dog began running around the houseÂ and joyfullyÂ barking and wagging her tail.Â Everyone was having an absolutely great evening!!!
- Being a husband and father is a BIG deal.
- Our actions as leaders regardingÂ the manner in whichÂ we walk into rooms makes a difference.
- Our influence can and should be properlyÂ leveraged for incredible good.
- Our families need and want us to lead in a lovingÂ manner.
- As husbands and fathers, we need to be intentional thatÂ the most important “meeting” we haveÂ each day is when we come home.
- I work withÂ wonderful people but myÂ greatest joy happens when I arrive home toÂ my family.
- Our homes need to places of love, security, fun, acceptance, and safety.
- My family desperatelyÂ needs me.Â
- And I desperately need them.
- And I need God to lead me because I am not talented enough, smart enough, loving enough, or good enough to adequately fulfill this role by myself.
Husbands and fathers, none of us are perfect.Â Tell usÂ howÂ the roomÂ changes when you come home?
For more information on this subject, read my favorite postÂ that I’ve ever written “Ladies, How To Welcome A Man Home”.