There are few things as difficult and emotionally draining as putting up with a difficult leader. I am fortunate enough to serve under great leadership now but that has not always been the case. I remember often saying every morning, “Jesus, if You want to come back, NOW would be a great time!” So how do you know when this type of work environment is worth putting up with?
In the November 26th edition of Sports Illustrated, San Antonio Spurs superstar point guard Tony Parker was profiled. Parker is now very secure in his job, but early in his career head coach Gregg Popovich continually criticized Parker and his performance. Have you ever been there?
So why did Parker sign an extension with team in 2004 instead is seeking options elsewhere? Two reasons:
- “The Care Factor” – Popovich genuinely cared about Parker off the court. He would take him out to dinner 15-20 times during the season. Also, they took many opportunities to decompress together during stressful times.
- Improved Performance – Parker realized that Popovich’s criticism was accurate. By listening to him and implementing his thoughts, Parker got exponentially better as a player becoming an Olympian and perennial All-Star.
So whether you are in ministry or the business, non-profit or athletic communities, if you have a difficult boss, ask yourself these three questions:
- Does this individual genuinely care about me?
- Is their criticism accurate?
- Are they making me better?
If the answer to these questions is “Yes”, then I recommend you stick it out, press into the situation, and see what God is doing in your life.
If the answers are “No”, then you either have to wait out the situation or look for other options.
I’m interested in your thoughts. How do you handle difficult leadership environments?
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