{"id":11101,"date":"2013-03-17T17:38:30","date_gmt":"2013-03-17T19:38:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/briandoddonleadership.com\/?p=11101"},"modified":"2013-03-17T17:42:41","modified_gmt":"2013-03-17T19:42:41","slug":"10-things-leaders-can-do-to-build-long-lasting-friendships-with-other-leaders","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/briandoddonleadership.com\/2013\/03\/17\/10-things-leaders-can-do-to-build-long-lasting-friendships-with-other-leaders\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Things Leaders Can Do To Build Long-Lasting Friendships With Other Leaders"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><object id=\"msnbc32b8bb\" width=\"420\" height=\"245\" classid=\"clsid:d27cdb6e-ae6d-11cf-96b8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http:\/\/download.macromedia.com\/pub\/shockwave\/cabs\/flash\/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\"><param name=\"FlashVars\" value=\"launch=50899560&width=420&height=245\" \/><param name=\"allowScriptAccess\" value=\"always\" \/><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" \/><param name=\"wmode\" value=\"transparent\" \/><param name=\"src\" value=\"http:\/\/nbcsports.msnbc.com\/id\/33399756\" \/><param name=\"flashvars\" value=\"launch=50899560&width=420&height=245\" \/><param name=\"allowscriptaccess\" value=\"always\" \/><param name=\"allowfullscreen\" value=\"true\" \/><param name=\"pluginspage\" value=\"http:\/\/www.adobe.com\/shockwave\/download\/download.cgi?P1_Prod_Version=ShockwaveFlash\" \/><\/object><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-size: 11px; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; color: #999; margin-top: 5px; background: transparent; text-align: center; width: 420px;\"><a style=\"text-decoration: none !important; border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; color: #5799db !important;\" href=\"http:\/\/nbcsports.msnbc.com\/id\/24471749\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">Breaking sports news video<\/a>. <a style=\"text-decoration: none !important; border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; color: #5799db !important;\" href=\"http:\/\/nbcsports.msnbc.com\/id\/3032825\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">MLB<\/a>, <a style=\"text-decoration: none !important; border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; color: #5799db !important;\" href=\"http:\/\/nbcsports.msnbc.com\/id\/3032875\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">NFL<\/a>, <a style=\"text-decoration: none !important; border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; color: #5799db !important;\" href=\"http:\/\/nbcsports.msnbc.com\/id\/3032847\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">NBA<\/a>, <a style=\"text-decoration: none !important; border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; color: #5799db !important;\" href=\"http:\/\/nbcsports.msnbc.com\/id\/3032803\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">NHL highlights<\/a> and <a style=\"text-decoration: none !important; border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; font-weight: normal !important; height: 13px; color: #5799db !important;\" href=\"http:\/\/nbcsports.msnbc.com\/id\/24471749\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">more<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a title=\"Ike Reighard\" href=\"http:\/\/www.twitter.com\/ikereighard\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">Ike Reighard<\/a>, Senior Pastor of <a title=\"Piedmont Church\" href=\"http:\/\/www.piedmontchurch.tv\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">Piedmont Church<\/a>, is the most relational leader I know.<\/strong> \u00a0I once asked him how it was that he had so many life-long friendships. \u00a0His answer was fascinating. \u00a0“Brian, I am just intentional about periodically checking in.” \u00a0Ike prioritizes friendships.<\/p>\n<p>I have often wondered once Ike has connected with them, what exactly do they talk about? \u00a0<strong>What are the things that one great leader says to another to continually build the friendship?”<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Recently, <a title=\"ProFootball Talk\" href=\"http:\/\/profootballtalk.nbcsports.com\/2013\/02\/21\/dimitroff-pioli-talk-shop-and-reminisce\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">ProFootballTalk.com<\/a><\/strong><strong>\u00a0aired an interview between <a title=\"9 Things Great Leaders Do To Find Their Dream Job\" href=\"https:\/\/briandoddonleadership.com\/2013\/03\/13\/9-things-great-leaders-do-to-find-their-dream-job\/\">Thomas Dimitroff<\/a>, general manager of the <a title=\"6 Leadership Lessons From The Atlanta Falcons\" href=\"https:\/\/briandoddonleadership.com\/2010\/11\/29\/6-leadership-lessons-from-the-atlanta-falcons\/\">Atlanta Falcons<\/a>, and <a title=\"How To Build A Champion Part 1\" href=\"https:\/\/briandoddonleadership.com\/2010\/08\/17\/30-must-know-lessons-on-how-to-build-a-team\/\">Scott Pioli<\/a>, former general manager of the <a title=\"Adding Leaders: Insights from the 2010 Kansas City Chiefs\u00c2\u00a0Draft\" href=\"https:\/\/briandoddonleadership.com\/2010\/05\/10\/adding-leaders-insights-from-the-2010-kansas-city-chiefs-draft-2\/\">Kansas City Chiefs<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong>(shown above).<strong>\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong>Their relationship goes back over 20 years as Dimitroff\u00a0worked for Pioli while both were on staff with the Cleveland Browns and <a title=\"9 Reasons For Sustained Excellence: A Study Of The New England Patriots\" href=\"https:\/\/briandoddonleadership.com\/2011\/01\/16\/9-reasons-for-sustained-excellence-a-study-of-the-new-england-patriots\/\">New England Patriots<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>As they began to interact, I felt their conversation teaches <strong>10 things leaders can do to build long-lasting friendships with other leaders.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Need A Safe Place To Vent With One Another<\/strong>\u00a0– Dimitroff\u00a0started on the grounds crew which resulted many frustrating days. \u00a0Pioli was a kind ear to him during that time.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Often Share Small Beginnings<\/strong> – Have you ever noticed when leaders get together there are always portions of the conversation that start with “Do you remember when…”<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Serve One Another<\/strong>\u00a0– Early in their friendship, Pioli\u00a0was very intentional about investing in Dimitroff’s development.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Share Common Passions And Develop Their Skills<\/strong> – This allows them to have a common journey and not get left behind.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Use A System<\/strong> – Many great leaders I know either intentionally or have their assistant keep key relationships built into their calendar.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Learn From Each Other<\/strong>\u00a0– Dimitroff\u00a0stated he learned about building teams from Pioli\u00a0and Patriots head coach Bill Belichick. \u00a0If you are not a continual learner, you probably have very few long-lasting relationships.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Laugh With One Another<\/strong> – They genuinely enjoy being around one another.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Are Honest With One Another<\/strong> – Leaders make each other better by offering targeted advice and feedback.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Encourage Other Leaders<\/strong>\u00a0– Let’s go back to <a title=\"How To Grow A Church\" href=\"https:\/\/briandoddonleadership.com\/how-to-grow-a-church\/\">Ike Reighard<\/a>. \u00a0Every time he enters a room I’m in, it is like sunshine just walked in. \u00a0He always brightens everything.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Leaders Who Build Long-Lasting Friendships Respect Other Leaders<\/strong> – There has to be an attitude that says, “What do you want? \u00a0What do you need? \u00a0How can I serve you?”<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><strong>Safety, Shared Experiences, Servant Attitude, Common Passions, Use A System, Continual Learning, Laughter, Honesty, Encouragement, and Respect<\/strong>. \u00a0If you have these 10 things in your life, you most likely have many long-lasting friendships.<\/p>\n<p>If you lack a number of long-term friends, what is one thing you can begin doing TODAY to build relationships?<\/p>\n<p>Subscribe <a title=\"Free Ebook\" onclick=\"javascript:_gaq.push(['_trackEvent','outbound-article','http:\/\/eepurl.com']);\" href=\"http:\/\/eepurl.com\/vkpiH\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">here<\/a> so future posts can be sent directly to your Inbox. 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